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In Coaching and Managing, the Question May Be More Important Than the Answer!

Michael Kogutek, nonprofit management coach

Michael Kogutek

 

 

When I am done coaching a client, I usually convene the evaluation committee in my head to assess the session. The first criteria is, did I ask good questions that led to the critical thinking process. Recently I came across a book devoted to the subject of asking the right questions in coaching as a manager. The book is: “The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More and Change the Way You Lead Forever” by Michael Bungay Stanier.* Michael is an Aussie who runs a coaching and leadership consulting firm in Canada. The book’s focus is to managers who employ coaching as a managerial and leadership style.Here is a list of the questions he puts forth: 1. Kickstart  Question: What is on your mind? Let’s talk about the thing that matters most. 2. The Awe Question: And what else? The underlying assumptions here are to stay curious, ask it one more time, avoid advice giving, and move on when it is time. 3. The Focus Question: What is the real challenge here for you? Focus on the real problem and not the first one. 4. The Foundation Question: What do you want? 5. The Lazy Question: How can I help? What do you want from me? 6. The Strategic Question: If you are saying YES to this, what are you saying no to? A YES is nothing without the NO that gives it boundaries and form. 8. What do you think I should do about? It is the cheddar on the mousetrap!

I enjoyed the book and highly recommend it. It puts us in the mindset to engage in the process of curious inquiry in our coaching.

  • The Coaching Habit-MIchael Bungay Stanier (2016) Box of Crayons Press, Toronto,Canada

Website: www.boxofcrayons.biz

Author:  Michael Kogutek, Executive Coaches of Orange County. www.ECofOC.org

The Coaching Fit (Coaching Series- Part 7-Final)

Michael Kogutek, nonprofit management coach

Michael Kogutek

 

This is the final blog post in this coaching series. I hope you have enjoyed it as much as I have putting it together.

As you consider getting a coach, we have explored the different aspects of coaching. The most important piece for you is the coaching fit and making a decision on who is right for you. I support folks putting a lot of thought and energy in this process. Make sure you interview your potential coach and ask a lot of questions. This fit is a bit tricky. You want to feel comfortable with the coach. On the other hand, you want to choose somebody who will be strong enough to make sure you are accountable and not co-sign resistance, procrastination and obstacles to your growth.

If you want to grow and change as a leader, coaching is for you. Coaching is a unique opportunity to meet regularly with someone whose only purpose is to help you be successful. It breeds  leadership that embodies boldness and innovation.

Bob Cryer founded the non-profit organization called Executive Coaches of Orange County (ECofOC) in 2002. His mission was  to help Orange County nonprofit leaders become more effective in achieving their mission and vision. ECofOC offers free coaching to OC nonprofit organizations. We have currently over 90 active clients and over 25 active coaching volunteers. Most of our coaches are retired business executives who give back to the community and share their business and professional acumen to help you transform and change. I am proud to be associated with this group of individuals and share their passion. Please check out their bios on the ECofOC website.

If you are interested in getting a coach, please visit the ECOC website for more information and to apply. The moment and power of change is now!

Author:  Michael Kogutek, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org

Coaching Mechanics (Coaching Series part 6)

Michael Kogutek, nonprofit management coach

Michael Kogutek

 

 

Before we move into some new material, it’s a good idea to summarize what we have covered up to this point. As you consider selecting a coach, you need to think about a good fit between you and the coach. The previous sections on What Makes A Good Coach and “The Coaching Relationship” will serve as a reference. I will be discussing the fit in a future blog post.

I would like to discuss some mechanics to consider. The frequency of sessions is usually, at a minimum, monthly. My preference is to meet bi-weekly as this creates momentum, intensity and accountability.The sessions usually last an hour. The client and I commit to be on time. With technology, some coaches prefer to use telecommunication, i.e. phone or Skype, for sessions. I prefer to meet face to face for a couple of reasons. First, meeting in person lends itself to advancing the relationship.Secondly, meeting face to face requires effort, motivation and commitment from both parties. Most of my colleagues at ECOC share the same view. The meeting location is usually a neutral site, allowing the client privacy and confidentiality away from the work environment.

I use a client prep sheet to organize the client for the session.The client fills out the prep sheet prior to our session and e-mails it to me. This forces the client to organize their thoughts and also gets me focused and prepared for our session.

Some coaches use assessment tools when they begin to work with the client. Such tools as the Myers-Briggs Inventory, Wheel of Life and questionnaires are used to help generate data for the coach and client.

At the end of each session I try to set with a clear formulation of goals generated by the client. The client is held accountable for this with a set timeline. The client and myself then agree on a date for a future session.

Accountability is an essential ingredient and driver of this process.

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Author:  Michael Kogutek, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org

 

The Coaching Relationship (Coaching Series Part 5)

Michael Kogutek, nonprofit management coach

Michael Kogutek

 

The coaching relationship is the “heart and soul’ of the coaching experience. It is the catalyst that transforms the client’s vision into realistic possibilities. The connection has energy and a joint commitment to move forward.

An essential element to this relationship is a safe emotional environment based on trust, confidentiality and mutual respect. Clients need to know that they can talk freely about their life and goals in sessions. Trust is quite vital. Clients need to feel that we are trustworthy. We do this by keeping our appointments and showing up on time. Coaches empower trust by holding clients accountable on their stated goals, objectives and plan of action

The relationship must be honest and contain no judgments. The truth is always told. Coaches want to hear the truth as it engages the process of learning. Coaches present their truth in a direct, gentle and respectful manner.

This relationship is a partnership. It is mutual and has no power differential.

Another important ingredient is humor, laughter and having fun. The coach and client should not take themselves too seriously.

As you consider getting a coach, the above relationship ingredients are imperative to your success. Make sure they are operating. If you are a manager, using coaching as leadership capacity, the stage is set for what needs to happen between you and the client.

A final thought. My colleagues at ECofOC also believe that the coaching relationship is the change agent for the client.

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Author:  Michael Kogutek, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org

What Makes a Good Coach? (Coaching Series Part4)

 

Michael Kogutek, nonprofit management coach

Michael Kogutek

 

As you consider the possibility of getting a coach or using coaching in your managerial approach; you may wonder about the traits of a good coach. I do not pretend to know all of the answers but will provide a few tips and guidelines.

The most important characteristic of a coach is the capacity to listen and empathy. In listening, you want a coach who is totally present and without judgment understands your perspective and experience. A good coach listens for the client’s visions and values as well as client’s agenda; not what the agenda or direction should be. The empathic coach attempts to walk in your shoes. This is different from sympathy. In sympathy, one cares about your feelings and suffering. In contrast, empathy is about feeling your suffering and the experience attached to it.

Curiosity is another important quality in a good coach. In my opinion, asking questions in the coaching session is essential. It provides a space for the client to develop their own critical thinking process. As a result the client comes up with their own path, possibilities and decision making.

Personal integrity, wisdom and the ability to be non-judgmental is key. You also want a coach who will be firm with boundaries and and demand accountability from their selves and the client. This translates to formulating and communicating clear and concise goals and objectives.

Last but not least, you want a coach who is authentic and genuine. They need to walk the talk.

As a coach, I work mindfully on all these guidelines to become a better coach and person. It is easier said than done and always a work in progress.

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Author:  Michael KoguteK, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org

History and Development of Coaching (Coaching Series: Part 3)

Michael Kogutek, nonprofit management coach

Michael Kogutek

 

The roots of coaching can be traced to the field of psychology. In the 1960’s, a sector of psychology emerged called “The Third Force”. It was a rebellion against the Freudian (medical) model and behaviorism. It’s main thesis is the belief in the positive nature of humans along with their potential. The main architects include Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, Rollo May,Fritz Perls and others. This movement is currently advocated by the field of Positive Psychology. Its main leader is Martin Seligman, Ph.D.

Subsequently the work of Milton Erickson (father of American hypnosis) is a key precursor to the memos of coaching used today. Erickson believed in the inherent ability of individuals to achieve wellness.This developed into more solution bases therapies and coaching methods. The main focus is not pathology but behavior change through increased awareness and choices. One of the early coaches Bill O’Hanlon has emphasized possibilities and preferences. Clearly these are the fundamentals of coaching.

Coaching has really developed from three streams: 1. helping professions such as psychotherapy and counseling and related perspectives as noted above, 2. consulting and organizational development and industrial psychology, and 3. personal development training such as EST( Werner Erhard), Lifespring, Landmark Forum and Tony Robbins.

Thomas Leonard became a central figure in coaching here in the US. He was influenced by Werner Erhard and EST in the early 80’s. He was an employee of EST back then. Later he started a financial advisory firm but noticed that people wanted more in terms of life planning. He started coaching. In 1995 he founded the International Coaching Federation (ICF) as a non-profit organization for fellow coaches to support each other and grow the profession. There are 60 chapters worldwide. In 2014, ICF had 25,000 members of which 15,00 are credentialed. The ICF is the main credentialing body for coaches worldwide. Currently there are no federal or state laws regulating the coaching profession.

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Author:  Michael Kogutek, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org

What is coaching? (Coaching Series: Part1)

Michael Kogutek

Michael Kogutek

 

I will be writing a series of blog posts in the coming months focusing on the many facets of coaching. The goal is to give you all the information possible so you can make an informed choice if coaching is for you.

Frequently I am asked to tell folks what coaching is about. This first blog post is an attempt to answer that question. I must warn you that there are many definitions of coaching.

The International Coaching Federation (ICF), founded in 1992, the most prominent credentialing and governing body of coaches says, “Coaching is an ongoing relationship which focuses on clients taking action toward the realization of their visions, goals and desires.” The key word here is relationship. It is a relationship totally focused on the agenda of the client.

Another way to define coaching is to state what it is not. Coaching is not therapy. It does not focus on the past or tries to fix. Coaching emphasizes the future, the gifts and talents of each client. It is not consulting. Consultants tell you the problem and the related solutions. They may even fix the problem for you. In coaching, the answers lie within the client. The client inherently knows the way. Also coaching differs from mentoring. Mentors give informal advice and are usually traveling farther on the same road. Curious questions and inquiry drive the coaching process.

The Blessing White (2009)* definition is, “Coaching is helping another person figure out the best way to achieve his or her goals, develop skill sets or expertise and produce the results the organization needs.” Coaching is not telling someone what to do. It is not stepping in to actually do the work.

The bottom line for me is that coaching is a dynamic ongoing relationship in which the client owns and directs the agenda. It is future oriented and demands accountability by the coach and client. It seeks to capitalize on the strengths, gifts and talents of the client.

I hope you will consider getting a coach. If you are a manager with a non-profit organization in Orange County, you can apply here at ECOC. The price is right; it is FREE! Our team of coaches are prepared to take you where you want and dream to go.

You may ask, “Why do I need a coach?” I think we all do. Ask LeBron James, Tiger Woods and Tom Brady. They all have one. They have one thing in common, they want to improve and fulfill their goals.

*BlessingWhite(2009) “The Coaching Conundrum”

Book Review: “Give and Take” by Adam Grant

 

Michael Kogutek

Michael Kogutek

 

Adam Grant,Ph.D. is a professor of Industrial and Organizational Psychology at the Wharton Business School. There he is engaged in research and teaching cutting edge ideas about leadership and managerial styles.

In “ Give and Take”, Adam categorizes people at work as givers, takers and matchers. The givers are a breed of people who contribute without any expectations in return. Takers try to get as much as possible from others. Matchers give and take when they see there will be something in return for them. This is an interesting way to frame people!!!

Grant makes a point to define “otherish giving”. Giving selflessly versus giving a bit selfish is what separates successful from unsuccessful givers.

His book contains a large body of research that supports his ideas that giving under the right conditions is the best overall strategy to succeed in business.

I enjoyed the book. He embellishes his research studies with wonderful narrative stories. In the end, he makes a point to communicate how givers can take better care of themselves and risk not being a doormat.

I recommend the book. It was refreshing to learn that one can be most successful without greed and manipulation.

Author:  MIchael Kogutek, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org