As a leader do you ever wish your employees would do this or that? If you have a supervisor, do you day dream that your boss would this or that? I’m sure we’ve all had these thoughts at some point.
It’s common for people to have an expectation of what they would like from someone. That brings up the question of how to get what you want from others. When you were growing up, did your parents teach you The Golden Rule? I know I’ve heard it many times. It goes something like this, “Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.” Recently I heard Deepak Chopra say it a little differently in a meditation, “I attract what I am.”
Let’s think about how this can apply to you as a leader in business. Think about what might be missing for you in relation to the people you work with. What are you “wishing” someone would do? When you’re feeling you want more of something from someone, then that’s what you should be giving to others.
Here are some examples:
If you want to be heard, listen.
If you want to be appreciated, give appreciation.
If you want “atta boys”, give recognition or “pats on the back” to others.
If you want more independence in your work, empower others to be independent.
If you want people to follow through with you, follow through with others.
If you want people to be on time to your meetings, be on time, start on time.
If you want people to do what you “said” to do, be clear and specific in what you say.
If you want to be kept in the loop, keep others in the loop.
If you want others to honor their word with you, be a person of integrity.
If you want people to be kind and considerate, be kind and considerate.
If you want to be respected as a leader, be respectful to others
.And most importantly, if you want to be loved, be loving.
Think about what you want and give it to others. This simple Golden Rule of Leadership will make a huge impact in your life, both at work and at home.
Author: Lois Carson, Executive Coaches of Orange County, www.ECofOC.org